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1. If things are difficult, keep the questions rather positive and try not too tackle tough subjects. Questions centering on what attracted me to you, best date we ever had, what a dream vacation would be, what quality do I like best about you, etc. Positive questions are important in order to help you focus on the positive aspects of your relationship.
2. Check out the selection of dialogue questions available online ( Including Links Below).
3. Remember the purpose of dialogue is to help you understand your spouse's feelings. It is not to change one another or to manipulate one another. Each dialogue question should be written so that the couple finds out how one another feels. Not how they think... but how they feel. Then truly try to understand and accept one another as you are.
4. Separations due to travel can be a challenge. Many couples use the same question for each day they are apart, something like "How Do I Feel Today?" or "What were my feelings today?" With Skype, FaceTime and other apps, being halfway across the world is possible and still able dialogue. If impossible, once together, read all the letters from your time apart, and then dialogue on the feelings they have reading the letters.
5. Have a couple favourite questions to fall back on when finding the right one is difficult. "How do I feel about today?" is always a standard one, but with millions of questions out there, we can have one for everyday for the rest of our lives.
Remember, dialogue is a gift. A gift with no strings attached.